When you lose your spouse, the way you grieve your loss will differ from another widow or widower you may know. While it’s true we all have a similar experience, the relationship we had with our spouses differ, and the way we grieve will differ too. We all have a unique set of fingerprints and we all have a different way to handle our grief. So, do not compare yourself to another widowed person.
Often when someone I talk with hears I’m widowed, they begin talking about a loss of theirs – their mom or dad, a sibling, another relative, or a friend. This lack of sensitivity always bothers me…because there is NOTHING like losing your spouse. I try not to let it bother me because I know their intent is to try and help, but it really does not help at all. Sometimes people will even talk about the pain of losing their beloved pet or going through a divorce. Try to forgive and know they are only trying to help. No one knows what to say or how to help you, unless they have lost a spouse too.
The parents or siblings of your spouse, if still alive, will grieve differently than you. Your children will grieve differently. You had a unique relationship with your spouse, so try not to judge others in the way they grieve the loss of your spouse.
#grief #griefandloss #griefsupport #griefjourney #spousegrief
Often when someone I talk with hears I’m widowed, they begin talking about a loss of theirs – their mom or dad, a sibling, another relative, or a friend. This lack of sensitivity always bothers me…because there is NOTHING like losing your spouse. I try not to let it bother me because I know their intent is to try and help, but it really does not help at all. Sometimes people will even talk about the pain of losing their beloved pet or going through a divorce. Try to forgive and know they are only trying to help. No one knows what to say or how to help you, unless they have lost a spouse too.
The parents or siblings of your spouse, if still alive, will grieve differently than you. Your children will grieve differently. You had a unique relationship with your spouse, so try not to judge others in the way they grieve the loss of your spouse.
#grief #griefandloss #griefsupport #griefjourney #spousegrief
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