After losing your spouse, one of the most important tools you can use to move through your grief is your powerful mind. Here’s another idea to help you reframe your mind.
Think back to a time when your spouse was not in your life. That may be a long time ago, I know. After Greg died and I had to come to grips with living alone, I thought back to when I was in my early 20s. I had an apartment, lived alone, and was fine. So, intellectually, I knew I could live alone again…even if I did not want to live alone. But now I had no choice.
I started saying, This Is My Life. 4 little words, but they have power.
You can change the emphasis of these 4 little words. Make this your new mantra.
Think about how you have become a better person because of having your spouse in your life. I am SO different because of Greg. He always encouraged me and I would never have gone into sales, finished my degree, or wrote a book if not for him. What about you? Can you articulate how you’re different?
Appreciate the life you had with your spouse, and bring all those memories with you as you build your new life and your new future. But, build a new future you must! Do not let yourself get stuck and unable to move.
#grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #spouseloss #griefandloss #spousegrief
Think back to a time when your spouse was not in your life. That may be a long time ago, I know. After Greg died and I had to come to grips with living alone, I thought back to when I was in my early 20s. I had an apartment, lived alone, and was fine. So, intellectually, I knew I could live alone again…even if I did not want to live alone. But now I had no choice.
I started saying, This Is My Life. 4 little words, but they have power.
- THIS is my life – face it, your life will never be the same, so how will you cope?
- This IS my life – what are you going to do with it?
- This is MY life - You are the one alive. Think about YOU and what you need to focus on, to become a healthy and happy person
- This is my LIFE – while you will spend eternity in Heaven, what will you do with the rest of your life here on earth?
You can change the emphasis of these 4 little words. Make this your new mantra.
Think about how you have become a better person because of having your spouse in your life. I am SO different because of Greg. He always encouraged me and I would never have gone into sales, finished my degree, or wrote a book if not for him. What about you? Can you articulate how you’re different?
Appreciate the life you had with your spouse, and bring all those memories with you as you build your new life and your new future. But, build a new future you must! Do not let yourself get stuck and unable to move.
#grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #spouseloss #griefandloss #spousegrief
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